How to Talk to Random People

People
October 26, 2020

Most of the meaningful relationships start with a light conversation. It begins with two strangers striking a simple talk that turns into a strong bond. For some, interacting with strangers is their forte. These types of people like to interact with new people outside their circle. It brings a sense of fulfillment in their lives.

Also, there is another category of those who find it difficult to maintain eye contact with strangers. It becomes difficult for such people to form meaningful bonds with other people. However, interacting with strangers brings some fun. Below is a guide on how to talk to random people at any place.

Being Not Afraid of People’s Reaction

Most individuals often dread facing rejection from strangers after making their initial approach. It is important to note that not all conversations with strangers will go the way you planned. Therefore, avoid entering into conversations to make long-life friends. Some conversations are casual and help build on your social skills. You get more confidence to start talking with others.

It would help if you did not obsess over how the person will react to you. If things get awkward, you can cherish the fact you will never see the person again. Learning to talk with random individuals should not come with any pressures.

Asking Questions

The quickest way to start a conversation is by asking questions about another person. When you talk with a random person, always give them the chance to express their personality to you. After that, you can know what topics are interesting to them. In turn, the strangers ask questions about you. You have the freedom to introduce yourself to them. It breaks the ice in most conversations with random persons.

Forget About People’s Perceptions

A common trait of shy people is creating suggestions on what other people think of them. When you talk to random people, it is essential to ensure you remain true to yourself. Do not worry about what people think about you. Be confident about yourself. Do not hold yourself back to build friendships with random people. Friendships are born from honesty. Therefore, be yourself.

What Do You Have in Common?

The easiest way to talk to random people is by sharing a connection. How do you find this connection? You can find it by sharing similar topics you both share an interest in. Start by asking questions to a person to find some areas of interest. Typical areas of interest that exist between random people include going to the same school, supporting the same team, or even hating a particular thing. Learning how to talk with random people becomes easier with a shared connection.

Selection of a Person

Small talk is not everyone’s cup of tea. You might find it easy to start a talk with a random person while other cases become difficult. Before talking to a random person, it is essential to read their body language first. Some people show signs that they are less interested in starting the small talk with someone. If someone sits with their arms crossed with a grin, that is a sign you should steer away from them. However, if a person sits with a warm smile with their eyes glaring, they could be your next best friend.

Avoid Making Assumptions

The quickest way to end a conversation with random people is by telling them your assumptions about them. For example, you run into a woman with a child and assume it’s their child. Making matters worse, you run into an overweight woman and congratulate them on their pregnancy.

Avoid making judgments from the first appearances of people. It is essential to steer away from controversial topics that will end the talk quickly. Only give your assumption about a person when it is beyond doubt. For example, you can assume a person is a football fan by wearing a jersey or full football accessories.

Controversial Topics

It goes back to sharing a connection with random people to form a bond. Every person has their beliefs, ideas, and thoughts about a topic. Some of our beliefs are a foundation of our education and environment. It does not represent the absolute truth. Sharing your opinions about politics, abortion, rape, racial injustice, or war could elicit a different reaction from random people. You should find yourself in a confrontation over your sentiments instead of keeping small talk.

Think Ahead

The beauty of trying to talk to random people is the uniqueness of each person. Instead of frightening about approaching random people, cherish that you will learn something new about them. You can learn so much about the life experiences that helped them shape their current lives. Shifting the focus on what you will learn eliminates the constant fear of talking to random people.

Learning Current Events

You can strike a serious talk with a random person by talking about current happenings in the world. You can talk about politics, economy, lifestyle, climate change, or sports. Knowing some of these topics gives you an edge to take control of the conversation with random people. You can talk about the new restaurant in town, for instance.

Avoid Oversharing

Do not dump all your life experiences on a random person on your first talk. It is a simple way to scare them off. It makes the small talk uncomfortable and makes the person looking for an exit strategy. You do not need to let out every detail of your life to a stranger.

Ensure You Have Fun

Feel free when striking small talk with a random person. Do not feel the obsessive need to hold back to avoid rejection. Be yourself. Build your confidence with each talk you have with a random person. You can even take a step to crack a joke. It makes you feel much better. You can find comfort in talking to a stranger.

When you find it challenging to make small talk with a random person, it might be a sign that you need help. Reach out to a professional therapist today and rebuild your confidence.

Kate Skurat

Kate Skurat

Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Washington, United States

Kate has a B.S. in Psychology and M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University and has worked in healthcare since 2017. She primarily treated depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma, and grief, as well as identity, relationship and adjustment issues. Her clinical experience has focused on individual and group counseling, emergency counseling and outreach. Read more.

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