QUIZ: Am I Being Gaslighted?

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where a person seeks to plant seeds of doubt in a target individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment. 

It can occur in various relationships: romantic, familial, professional, and friendships. 

Recognizing gaslighting can be challenging because it often develops gradually, making it hard to identify when it starts.

Who is the quiz for?

This self-assessment is designed for anyone who feels they may be experiencing gaslighting in any type of relationship.

If you find yourself questioning your reality, feeling confused about your memories, or doubting your perceptions due to interactions with someone, this quiz may help you identify gaslighting patterns.

Is the quiz accurate?

While this quiz is based on behaviors and experiences commonly associated with gaslighting, it should not be considered a definitive diagnosis of your situation. 

The complexity of human relationships and psychological experiences requires a nuanced understanding from a professional. 

Think of this quiz as a preliminary step toward recognizing potential issues. If indicated, please reach out to a professional on how to navigate your current situation. 

How to take the quiz and understand the results

Choose the option that best reflects how frequently you have encountered these behaviors from any person in your life and how you feel. 

How to interpret results: 

Mostly E-D’s: highly likely experiencing gaslighting 

You’ve indicated strong signs of being gaslighted. Recognizing these patterns is a vital first step. It may be beneficial to carefully consider your next step and focus on ensuring your well-being and safety.

Mostly C’s: possibly experiencing gaslighting

Your responses indicate some gaslighting. Acknowledging this is a crucial step. Seeking professional advice could provide clarity and ways to improve your situation.

Mostly B’s: some signs of gaslighting

There seem to be fewer signs of gaslighting in your situation compared to other levels. However, it’s still important to pay attention to any relationship dynamics that make you feel uncomfortable. 

Understanding more about gaslighting and reflecting on your feelings could provide valuable insights.

Mostly A’s: unlikely experiencing gaslighting

Based on your answers, gaslighting might not be a concern in your current relationship. However, trusting your instincts is key. 

If you ever feel uncertain or troubled by relationship dynamics, exploring these feelings on your own or with trusted resources might offer additional clarity and reassurance.

Gaslighting quiz

1) How often do they deny saying something, even though you clearly remember them saying it?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

2) Do you find yourself apologizing even when you believe you haven’t done anything wrong?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

3) Do they ever accuse you of being too sensitive or overreacting when you express your feelings?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

4) Do they insist you’re wrong about facts even when you’re sure you’re right, leading you to doubt your knowledge or memory?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

5) How often do they dismiss your opinions or interests as unimportant or wrong?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

6) How frequently do they make you question the validity of your feelings, suggesting that you’re too emotional or irrational?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

7) Do you find that they consistently redirect blame towards you when discussing issues, even when it’s clear they’re at fault?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

8) How often do they use negative stereotypes related to your gender, sexuality, ethnicity, race, nationality, or age to undermine or belittle you?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

9) How often do they change the subject or divert the conversation to avoid taking responsibility for their actions or words?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

10) Do they frequently accuse you of their behaviors, such as being dishonest or manipulative, projecting their faults onto you?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

11) How often do they undermine your achievements, making you feel like your accomplishments are insignificant?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

12) Do they control your decisions, making you feel like you can’t make choices independently without their approval?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

13) How frequently do they lie to you, making it difficult to trust your understanding of situations?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

14) Have they ever made you doubt your feelings or told you that you’re imagining things?

     0. Never

     1. Rarely

     2. Sometimes

     3. Often

     4. Very often

Next steps after the quiz

If your results indicate signs of gaslighting, or if you feel that speaking to someone could benefit you, we encourage you to reach out for professional help. 

At Calmerry, we provide access to licensed, experienced mental health professionals who can offer a supportive, non-judgmental space to explore your experiences and feelings. With personalized care, we’ll help you understand your situation, respond to gaslighting, and find ways to strengthen your mental health.

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