Getting Mixed Signals? It May Be Why
Heres a scenario: you met a guy, there was chemistry, sparks flew, you had some dates, then he ghosted. Now youre wondering what you did to scare him off. You even start to think that maybe he doesnt like you anymore. A few days or weeks later, he calls you up with the same enthusiasm, and the cycle begins again. Whats going on?
Here are a few key things about men who are crushing on a woman to consider:
- Some men are afraid to commit, but there are those with genuine feelings who are afraid to take that next step
- A guy may be afraid to acknowledge his feelings, but he will always give signals from his body language, behavior, and how he talks
- You can tell whether a man is interested in a relationship or something sensual and short-term
- An online therapist can help you to understand what feelings your man may have
Your crush might appear a little distant, and you might assume he stopped liking you, but it isnt the case. On the contrary, he could be very much into you but is just afraid to lay bare his feelings. It can be an emotional trip when you are totally into someone but cant tell their stand.
Heres the thing: your gut instincts will confirm the truth. Every love alarm bell will be going off in your mind. Yet, at the same time, the guy will be sending mixed signals causing you to think, Does he really like me? Some men like to bottle up their feelings until they are certain about them, so dont jump to conclusions first.
Even if your interest appears like theyve grown cold towards relationship prospects, there are ways to know their feelings. Men differ in their personalities, but most of these signals will hold for the majority. Knowing them will guide you on how to approach your crush and the relationship.
He May Be Afraid to Let His Guard Down, Heres Why
The fear of being rejected is the top reason men wont hang their hearts on a sleeve. Guys almost always assume that there may be someone else who is vying for your attention. Therefore, they might be afraid that you would choose someone else over them.
At the same time, the fear of past rejection and a broken heart makes most men go on their guard. A man might tell you that he never falls in love. Insecurities will keep him from opening up, and he might even go on the defensive if you broach the topic. The best thing to do is to let the guy deal with these conflicting feelings inside him. Hell then open up once hes sure its the right move.
If a man displays one or several of the signs below, you should know something is heating up. Ultimately, he should make a move and make his feelings known if the relationship is to progress.
Hes Sending Mixed Signals
He may seem like hes totally into you but never makes the first move. It is the number one signal to look for. The two of you might be getting closer each day, and a relationship might seem inevitable. Just when everything seems aligned, he backs away. If he becomes distant but still keeps contact and is still excited to see you, hes probably into you.
Some men exhibit a pattern of being hot and cold, and it can have nothing wrong with you. Maybe he just wants to hook up with you, but he knows that you are after a relationship. He may like you but is scared to commit because he isnt ready for a relationship.
He Lets Down His Guard Around You but Stops Short of Opening Up More
If the guy has been uptight before but begins getting comfortable, it could be a sure sign that hes into you. He might open up to you and start being himself, but then could change and become uptight again. A man might do it if he feels like hes about to become exposed. Look out for how he acts around friends and family, as opposed to how he acts when hes around you.
If hes comfortable when you are in more intimate contact, it is a sure sign that hes into you. At the same time, he wont want to mess up by going beyond any boundaries you set. Hell probably let you take the lead about how you relate in person.
Hell Quickly Make Time for You
A guy who likes you will want to hang around you every chance they get. Ask him to drop something off for you in town, and his busy schedule will suddenly be cleared. Men want to be viewed as the knights in shining armor by their dear ones. Hell want to be the person that you call if you need anything or if you want something fixed.
Hes Scared of Expressing His Feelings to You
A man might start opening up and confiding in you. He might tell you more about himself, his hobbies, and likes, and what hes been through. However, he may fall short of broaching the subject of your relationships and where you stand. He might also be afraid to mention anything to do with former relationships. It is one of the clearest signs that hes into you but is afraid to confess.
Hell Always Trying to Make You Laugh or Impress You
While he may be bottled up on his feelings, a man who likes you will always try to cheer you up. He may flirt playfully in a bid to get you to smile. Hell crack jokes, impersonate his favorite movie character, put on something funny on the TV, etc.
One of the clear signs that hes into you is that a man will always try to impress you. Whether its with his cooking skills, singing, exercising, dressing, and anything he thinks youll notice.
He Cares a Lot About Your Comfort
Went out for a walk but didnt carry your jacket? Hell probably lend you his own and let you keep it over the weekend. Chatting late on a weeknight? Hell remind you that you need to sleep early so that you dont get up tired or late the next morning. Hell probably call or text to make sure that you had breakfast. It is a sure sign that a guy cares for you deeply.
Hell Always Defend You in Any Situation
A guy will protect the girl he wants at all costs. He might call out another person who disrespects you even subtly. Hell probably pick your side in an argument. Hell do anything to show you that hes dependable and that hes fighting in your corner.
All of His Friends Have Heard About You
A man may close up his feelings from you, but he wont keep such things from his friends. If he does introduce you to his friends, that in itself is a pretty solid sign that hes into you. Youre all that he talks about and What did you do to him? If you hear such things from his friends, even if he hasnt opened up to you, he certainly likes you.
His Conversations Go Beyond the Sensual
Guys who are only after the skirt rarely talk about anything else other than bedroom affairs. A one who is into you will want it to be made clear that hes after something deeper. Even though you might end up making out, therell be a way about him that goes beyond lustful desires. You will talk about everything in the world, especially things that hold meaning for him.
Hes Always Doing Things for You, Even If He Doesnt Acknowledge His Feelings
A man who wants to be with, you will buy you subtle gifts without expressly acknowledging their meaning. He might buy you a new scarf or draw a picture of you, and it will probably be his best work.
He Pays Attention to All the Little Details
A man who is into you will notice everything about you: a change of hairdo, new earrings, a new fragrance, anything. Hell also notice when your mood has shifted or when even the slightest thing is bothering you. Hell be there to offer solutions just to keep you happy.
Hes Nervous Around You or Gets Awkwardly Silently
A man wont want to mess anything up when he gets the chance to be around you. That might put him on the edge of his seat. He may start to stutter, talk faster, or even remain silent and choose to listen to you speak instead.
You Catch Him Staring at You, but He Immediately Breaks Eye Contact
Theres just something about a man who has a longing for a girl. He can never seem to keep his eyes off her. She will be the object of his attention, and it will go deeper than sensual desires. He will be conscious of you even if youre seated on the other side of the room. If you do catch him staring and he immediately shifts his gaze away, that could be a sure sign.
While having a conversation, the man might hold his gaze a bit longer. Theres just something intimate about the eyes that will immediately let you know. If you make eye contact, he might shift his gaze away because of getting nervous.
He Likes or Comments on All Your Posts
If he has all your social accounts and likes or comments on every post, even random ones, hes feeling something. However, note that someone may do it even when youve never met.
Hes Sending Mixed Signals, What Do I Do Next?
A man may send hot and cold signals for various reasons. While some carry around emotional baggage from past relationships and are unsure about the timing, others are afraid to commit. Its important to let the guy open about his feelings on their terms. Any kind of pressure may take him out, and he may suddenly back away.
Pay attention to certain body language signals from your potential crush:
- A warm and gentle smile
- A deep gaze and locking of the eyes as much as possible
- He gets comfortable and doesnt flinch when you are in close contact
- He tends to get more manly around his friends when he knows you are watching
- His posture, face, moods, and comfort will always try to mirror yours
- His voice changes when he talks to you
Remember that a guy shouldnt make you wait too long, say years, to acknowledge their feelings if the chemistry is undeniable. Most men like to make the first move. However, if you are comfortable and can anticipate an outcome, you could take the initiative.
Talk to a Therapist If You Are Unsure of What to Do in Such Situations
We hope this article has shed some light on how to know if a guy is into you. However, each individual is unique, and not all these signals will be nearly as audible or visible. If youre having trouble reading the signs, a therapist can help you decipher the code.
A therapist can also let you know more about the subject you are interested in judging by their actions. Youll learn whether its a good idea to pursue a relationship with them or not. Try online therapy or psychotherapy through text or email, which works well for your convenience.