I Want to Run Away. How to Deal With Wanting to Run Away?

Not always do we know how to solve complicated life situations. And sometimes, when everything feels like there is no way out of the issue, we can get a feeling that the best way is to run away from it all. 

Have you ever felt it? Did you ever think: “I want to run away?”

If yes, then you are not alone. Let’s find out the reasons behind such feelings and what to do in such a case. 

Why do I want to run away from everything?

People may want to run away from everything for various reasons, including:

Stress and burnout 

The pressures from family responsibilities, financial issues, school, or work can become so intense that a person feels completely overwhelmed. For instance, according to the American Psychological Association, 79% of employees had experienced work-related stress in just one month in 2021. [1] Abramson, A. (n.d.). Burnout and stress are everywhere. https://www.apa.org/monitor/2022/01/special-burnout-stress

Someone working long hours without breaks or support might have the urge to escape their daily life to find relief. 

Relationship difficulties

Difficulties in personal relationships, whether with a partner, family, or friends, can lead to a desire to escape to avoid conflict, disappointment, or abuse.

An individual in a toxic or abusive relationship might feel that running away is the only way to regain their peace and autonomy. 

Emotional pain and trauma

Individuals dealing with traumatic experiences, unresolved emotional pain, or ongoing mental health issues might seek to run away as a means of escaping their suffering.

A person who has experienced a recent loss or a traumatic event might feel the need to distance themselves from reminders of their pain. 

Desire for freedom and adventure

Some people feel stifled by routine and responsibilities, craving freedom, new experiences, and adventure that their current life cannot provide.

Someone stuck in a monotonous job might dream of traveling the world to experience different cultures and lifestyles.

Is it normal to have the urge to run away?

The simple answer to the above question is yes. It’s normal to sometimes have the urge to run away from your problems. Life can be incredibly stressful, and everyone reaches a breaking point where they just want to escape. 

The feeling of running away when things get tough is a natural response to overwhelming stress, emotional pain, or unresolved issues. 

However, while the urge to flee is understandable, it’s important to recognize that running away doesn’t solve the underlying problems. Try to talk to people, friends, family, or professionals about it. Then, you will see that the situation that you are in can be solved in different ways.

Also, seeking help from a therapist or counselor can help you process what is bothering you and provide you with tools to cope more effectively.

– Kim Trauth, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW)

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What to do when you want to run away?

As we mentioned earlier, it’s totally normal to sometimes want to run away from everything in your life. However, there are healthier and more effective ways to cope.

Here are some practical tips to help you manage these feelings and find constructive solutions:

Talk to someone you trust

When you have the urge to run away, talking to a trusted friend or family member can provide immediate relief. 

Sharing your thoughts and feelings helps you feel less isolated and more supported. 

They can offer valuable advice, a different perspective, or simply a listening ear. Sometimes, just verbalizing your problems can make them feel more manageable.

Take a short break

A mini-vacation or a short break can provide the mental reset you need. This doesn’t mean running away from problems permanently, but rather giving yourself time to rest and rejuvenate. 

A change of scenery and a break from routine can offer new perspectives and renewed energy. Use this time to relax and reflect on your situation calmly. 

When you return, you might find that you have a clearer mind and a more positive outlook on tackling your problems. 

Practice self-care

Engaging in self-care activities can help alleviate stress and improve your mood. This could include exercise, relaxing activity, healthy food, or spending time in nature. [2] Caring for your mental health. (n.d.). National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/caring-for-your-mental-health

Taking care of your physical and mental health is essential for building resilience against life’s challenges. Regular self-care routines can make problems feel less overwhelming and give you the strength to face them. 

Break down problems into manageable steps

When problems seem insurmountable, breaking them down into smaller, manageable tasks can make a big difference. Prioritize what needs to be addressed first and tackle one issue at a time. 

This approach can reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and give you a sense of control. Accomplishing small tasks builds momentum and confidence. It’s a practical way to address issues without feeling the need to escape. 

Seek professional help

A therapist or counselor can help you understand the root causes of your desire to escape. They can provide coping strategies and tools to manage stress, anxiety, and other emotions. 

Professional guidance can also help you address underlying issues and develop healthier ways to handle them. Therapy sessions offer a safe and confidential space to explore your feelings deeply. 

This professional support can be crucial for long-term mental health and well-being.

Final thoughts

No one is protected from stressful situations, and this is one reason you may want to run away when things get tough. To cope with these feelings, the best thing you can do is avoid building up stress and burn out that would eventually lead to desperation.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want to run away, Calmerry therapists are always here for you. Online therapy offers professional support from the comfort of your home, helping you tackle your problems without having to escape.

You are the only one who can take proper care of you. Take a moment to listen to what you really want to do.