I Want to Run Away. How to Deal With Wanting to Run Away?

Not always we know how to solve complicated life situations. And sometimes, when everything feels like there is no way out of the issue, we can get a feeling that the best way is to run away from it all. Have you ever felt it? Did you even think of this: I want to run away?
If yes, then you are not alone. So, let’s find out what to do in such a case.

What Do Professionals Say About the Person’s Want to Run Away

In nine out of ten cases, the desire to run away comes from a complicated life issue. Usually, such a person simply doesn’t know what to do to make that situation better and wants to escape from it all instead of looking for answers. Such cases may be of any nature – death of a friend, work-related problems, hard breakup, etc.
Whatever the reason for the burnout is, remember the following – finding away and actually wanting to deal with the situation and your feelings may be a lot easier than running away from it.

Try to Avoid Burnout

Burnout can happen to anyone, especially to those people that are living on insanely busy schedules and have every minute of their days planned out. In such cases, people will eventually run out of energy and motivation to keep going and will burnout. Usually, this is the main reason for the want to run away. But for you not to want to do so, it is best to prevent burnout.
You might be asking now, “How to prevent it?” Well, the answer is quite simple – don’t take on too many responsibilities. Of course, it is not a piece of cake to juggle between work, relationships, and home. But even if you do, try to leave some time for yourself and to do something that you really want and enjoy.

“I Want to Run Away” – Is It Good or Bad?

This phase can be understood both ways. If you decide to take a spontaneous vacation for a couple of days just to relax, it is completely okay to do this. You will gain more energy, and after the break, you will have more power and want to continue to live your usual life routine.
But try not to confuse the want to run away with depression. People may feel very depressed with issues at work or relationship problems. In case you don’t try to clear your head and prepare to get back to your usual routine but instead just want to leave everything and never come back to it, there might be a huge problem. And that problem can only be solved with the help of professional therapists.

What Are the Alternative Options?

So, you feel that you want to run away, but there is no time for that, and you don’t have the needed resources to do it. What other things can you do? How to cope with your issues? Here are the things that you can try instead:

  • Speak about your feelings to other people or specialists;
  • Put together a list of pros and cons about you wanting to run away;
  • Find yourself a hobby, or go for a long walk.

Remember that regardless of how complicated the situation may seem at the moment, you can deal with it. You just need to choose the right approach.

Are You in Danger?

There are situations when the reason for the want to run away has nothing to do with burnout or work issues. There are cases when people are experiencing constant abusive situations and feel that their lives are in danger. It doesn’t matter whether you are fifteen years old or forty. If you are in such a case, you should take off immediately and then report the accident to proper authorities.

We Are Here to Help You

Feeling that the only way to solve the issue you are in is to run away and want this constantly is a very bad one. We are all people that have feelings. And no one is protected from stressful situations.
The best thing you can do is avoid building up stress and burn out that would eventually lead to desperation. You are the only one who can take proper care of you. Take a moment to listen to what you really want to do. And do it. But remember that your current responsibilities cannot be neglected.
If you feel like you need moral support and advice about how to react in such a situation, you can resort to a professional. Even if you have no time to visit in-person therapy sessions, you can easily do it online. Such a therapy type is not any less effective than the traditional ones, but it is a lot more convenient for people that lead busy lives.


Can a person run away and start over his/her life?

There are many situations in our lives that can lead to stress and desperation. And it is entirely normal to want to run away from everything and start a new life. But it doesn’t mean that it is the best solution to your case. Try to talk to people, friends, family, or professionals about it. Then you will see that the situation that you are in can be solved in different ways.

Can I escape reality?

Yes, there are many ways of doing it:

  • Do sports;
  • Find new hobbies;
  • Cook something tasty;
  • Read a book;
  • Watch a new film;
  • Go on for a vacation.

You can do everything or only one thing from the list. If you like to do it, you will notice how the situation improved.

Is it okay to want to escape from everything?

It depends on the case. If you want to run away for a couple of days to relax and clear your head, then go for it. But if you are in a bad mental state and feel too depressed, maybe it is best to get professional help.

Kate Skurat

Kate Skurat

Licensed Mental Health Counselor | Washington, United States

Kate has a B.S. in Psychology and M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University and has worked in healthcare since 2017. She primarily treated depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma, and grief, as well as identity, relationship and adjustment issues. Her clinical experience has focused on individual and group counseling, emergency counseling and outreach. Read more