- Body language is a reliable form of communication;
- Understanding female body language improves communication in a relationship;
- Online counseling helps men and women learn how to communicate effectively using verbal and nonverbal cues.
Body language is the fastest form of communication. It influences how others perceive us because it is the most truthful language. The female body is no exception; it conveys an honest message that words do not always carry.
Both men and women should understand the female body language. For men, learning to read a woman’s body language is vital for their relationships. For women, understanding the signals their bodies are giving off helps them to communicate better.
Reading female body language is not as simple as noticing gestures and movements. It is more about the changes in her behavior. Before you start looking for cues, you have to establish the “baseline” for her typical body language. Deviation from the baseline counts as body language.
Studies show that 38% of women’s communication is deciphered from her tone of voice. 55% is expressed through body language. Only 7% of her communication is verbal. Therefore, learning to read her body language is just as important as listening to what she tells you.
What Is Body Language?
Body language is a combination of conscious and unconscious movements by which attitude and feelings are communicated. It is a nonverbal language that can be hard to decipher without paying attention. Below are some types of body language:
- Facial expressions;
- Eye contact;
- Body movement and posture;
- Tonal variation.
Body language can play the following roles:
- Repetition – it reinforces the verbal message;
- Contradiction – it contradicts the verbal message and implies that the speaker may be lying;
- Substitution – it conveys a message that one cannot say aloud;
- Complementing – it increases the impact of the verbal message.
Can Body Language Be Faked?
Many experts offer advice on how to fake body language. They advise on how to act to show yourself in a certain way. Some of these tricks may be effective. However, unless they are genuine expressions, a keen observer may see right through them.
You may use a firm handshake to appear confident, but if you are anxious, another cue will betray you. The harder you try to fake body language, the more unnatural you seem. Therefore, understanding body language is important because it allows you to communicate effectively.
Just because body language cannot be faked does not mean you have no control over what your body says. For example, instead of furrowing your brows and crossing your arms when someone says something you do not agree with, you can maintain a neutral facial expression and try to understand their point of view.
20 Examples of Female Body Language
Before studying a woman’s nonverbal cues, you should know her normal behavior. Knowing which behaviors come naturally to her will help you identify changes that happen only when she is with you. Below are some examples of nonverbal cues that are worth noting.
Slouching shoulders is a sign that she is sad or holding onto stress. Standing up straight indicates confidence and pride. If your date is slouching while you talk over dinner, she might be stressed about something that is distracting her from enjoying her time with you.
Moving her head up and down while listening to your talk means she is interested in what you are saying. Nods make people seem agreeable and interested. When she nods, she is encouraging you to continue talking.
Females often tilt their heads out of habit. Head tilts can be a sign of confusion, especially if you have just met for the first time. Sometimes, tilting one’s head is a sign of submission. So, as a woman, avoid tilting your head and look straight ahead to convey confidence.
Touching Her Face And Hair
Self-grooming behaviors often indicate attraction. Twirling her hair, tucking it behind her ear of brushing back her bangs may be signs that she is into you. Women often touch their face and hair to get the attention of someone they like.
Most oral movements are a sign of desire. A woman may lick her lips while thinking of something tempting. The object of her desire may be food, a drink, or a sexual partner. On some occasions, she may lick her lips to moisten them out of habit.
A man should refrain from assuming that a woman is sexually attracted to him just because she licked her lips. Unless she shows other signs of sexual attraction, your assumption may be wrong.
Women often try to take up as little space as possible. This shows submissiveness and is often done unconsciously. A tall woman may slouch while seated next to a man. Most women sit with their legs together out of habit.
A woman who sits up and spreads her feet is seen as confident and dominant. Because she is not trying to be invisible by taking up less space, she demands respect and seems in control of the situation.
A steady gaze can convey several messages. If the woman is comfortable around you, holding eye contact shows interest and can be an invitation for you to continue talking. It shows that she is paying attention to you.
In some cases, eye contact can signal attraction. A woman who makes eye contact and lowers her gaze may be flirting. It can also be a sign of submissiveness.
A smiling woman is happy. Some smiles are so infectious that they make you smile too. Without saying much, a woman smiles to show that she is happy and feels connected to you.
Dilated eyes are a sign of interest. They are the body’s way of communicating attraction. Women have no control over this cue. Men often find women with large, doe-like pupils attractive.
This stance carries several meanings. It could mean that a woman is defensive because she feels threatened. At times, it is an expression of disagreement. When a woman feels frustrated by the conversation, she may also cross her arms.
Women roll their eyes habitually. Most times, it is an indication of frustration. A woman who is silent rolls her eyes to say that she is losing patience, and she does not want to hear more of what you have to say.
In a few cases, women roll their eyes as a joke. She may accompany this gesture with a sarcastic or funny comment. The accompanying verbal communication will clarify what she means.
When a woman tightens her lips, she does not agree with the person she is talking to. If you strike up a conversation with a woman and she immediately presses her lips together, take it as your cue to leave. You may ask whether she is okay, especially if you are on a date.
This nonverbal cue applies to both men and women. A strong, firm handshake is a sign of confidence. A weak handshake is a sign of anxiety. Withdrawing your hand quickly after a handshake indicates shyness or fear.
It is good to respect a woman’s personal space by talking to her from a reasonable distance, especially if you do not know each other well. If a woman leans away from you, it is a sign that she does not trust you. Leaning towards you may be a sign of agreement or a need for physical closeness.
If her face twitches and she grimaces at something you say, she is so grossed out that she couldn’t hide it. Most women have an unguarded reaction to things they find unsavory. Their sneer may last for only a fraction of a second before they catch themselves and adopt a neutral expression.
Rapid blinking is a woman’s way of saying that she is nervous and uncomfortable. Most men often misinterpret this cue as a sign of attraction. Slow blinking may communicate attraction, but rapid blinking is always a sign that a woman feels anxious.
When a woman copies your way of standing, talking, or your facial expressions, it shows that she relates to you. It builds a level of trust and understanding. Mirroring is an unconscious expression of an emotional connection.
Using expressive hand gestures are a sign that a woman is invested in the conversation she’s having. While they make a lasting impression, hand gestures may also be a sign of a lack of control. A woman who uses too many gestures may be seen as overly dramatic.
If a woman was wiggling her feet while you talk, and she stops abruptly, she may be reacting to sudden discomfort. Freezing may be a positive or negative sign depending on the topic of your conversation.
If a woman freezes up and looks away when you touch her, it may be a sign that she does not want you to go further. If she freezes up and maintains eye contact, it may be a sign of interest.
These may be a sign of anxiety, especially if she feels threatened. However, most women cross their legs out of habit. You should consider other verbal and nonverbal cues to determine what a woman is communicating by crossing her legs.
When To Seek Professional Help
Are you constantly reading nonverbal cues incorrectly? It may cause friction between you and your partner, especially when you misinterpret her behavior. If you are a woman who has trouble controlling her nonverbal cues and sending the right message, talking to a professional might help.
Our therapists are licensed. They are skilled in improving verbal and nonverbal communication skills. With their help, you can have honest conversations with your partner. What’s more, they work online so you can reach them whenever you need to.
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